Myths of Creation's Guide to Lightworkers, Healers & Communicating with the Spirits

I'm particularly interested in the stars at the moment, drawn to astrological patterns and cycles. I'm more open to the mystical interpretations of things than most people; all of my favorite novels could be considered to be written through the lens of magical realism. 

When I was in college a friend of mine once said, It all comes down to aesthetics. And I think about this all the time. Do we believe what we believe because it suits a version of the world we find the most beautiful, comfortable or orderly? For those who dwell in the realm of the physical, maybe its possibility of total control that they find comforting, or the fact that all things can be perceived by the senses, or measured in some way.

I can only say one thing: and that is that I see the collective unconscious at work all the time. I see people gravitate toward the same space, activity or object all the time in ways that don't have anything to do with the weather or the changing of the seasons. I have friends who guess what I'm thinking before I've even given them a clue. 

Right now the underlying tone, the bass line of the song we are all hearing in our collective heads is tension. There's a desire to connect, but also people seem to be testing their boundaries like toddlers who do something they're told not to do just to see what will happen. 

I'm not an astrologer, nor do I know how to communicate with my spirit guides directly, but I am endlessly curious and have a knack for recognizing psychological patterns. 

If you ever desire to connect with a truly gifted energy worker, there are a lot of ways to find one and many intuitives out there. But for me, the best experiences have come from recommendations from friends. Here is what I have learned in my dutiful time, research and experimentation. Remember, if you do decide to see any of these healers, record. Some recommend taking notes, but I find that listening to the recordings is really useful. 

ENERGY READINGS AND MEDIUMSHIP:

Passion Mandala,   digital art 2013   by Hank Hivnor

Passion Mandala,   digital art 2013   by Hank Hivnor

Hank Hivnor is a longtime energy reader, healer, and spirit medium. If you have a deceased loved one you would like to communicate with, or feel that there might be psychological factors in your makeup that you can't see on your own, this is who I recommend. You can read about my experience with him at length here. ($100/hour.) 

Chakra Balancing, Reiki and Communing with your Higher Self: Houiea Love. Houiea (pronouned Ow-yay) came onto my radar when a customer came in asking for a quartz crystal. She had just been to see Houiea for a reading with her higher self. After a breakup, a few months of hedonistic partying, and a lot of high highs and low lows, a friend offered to take her to see this healer. She was a complete skeptic, so the friend offered to pay for the session herself. She came into the shop like someone who had been reborn. She was ready to change her life. She saw the changes clearly. So I wanted to check him out for myself. His energetic readings with the higher self are very clear-cut. For example, he said to me, "The food you are eating is part of self-punishment, because someone else is giving you their own self-hatred." I had been struggling with eating food that made me feel sick because I felt so emotionally drained. I had said NOTHING to him at all when he said this to me. If you want something clearcut, quick and perhaps a bit introductory. Go see Houiea. I also recommend his reiki sessions. ($100 for reiki and higher self, $30 for 10-15 minutes higher self reading). 

ASTROLOGY

Kosmick Kory Varlen. Recommended to me through a friend (who is my unofficial mentor, and a true Virgo, as organized and pragmatic as they come), Kory has been an astrologer for decades. She is a bit whimsical and books pretty far in advance. Her style is specifics. If you ask her, for example, what's going on with a skin condition, she might say, "Don't worry about that, that is going to fade away by the end of the year." She can pinpoint what your chart recommends for exercise, specific dates that will be good for your health and money, psychological shifts that will happen in the next year. I also did energy work with her, but for a first session, I think Predictions is the best package. You can book with Kory, here. (Various packages starting at $175).

TAROT

 

If you are super new to all of this, I have one recommendation and that is Caitlin, also known as Tarotgraph. She practices short donation-based readings a Known to Man (formerly Dolly G's) on Graham Avenue every Sunday. Friends of mine who are are not necessarily into the mystical gypsy-revolution that seems to be going on love and frequent these tarot events. Caitlin is clear, intuitive and gentle. Her readings are short and concise and offer warnings, and solutions (not ominous conclusions.) ($10 +/10 mins)

Damon at Catland: Damon is on point. If you want someone to cut the bullshit, and say the hard things to you, go to Damon. But be prepared. He may tell you something difficult to hear and he will absolutely not sugarcoat anything. For me, he told me to stop bullshitting myself about certain aspects of my business. I needed to hear it, but it wasn't easy. If you need to be "Scared straight." Go to Damon. He can most certainly communicate with spirits through his cards. ($80/hr)

BREATHWORK and REBIRTHING

 

If you live up in your head, and what to get in touch with your intuition, but you also want to uncover childhood patterns or patterns established because of dynamics with your family, go see Peace Arnold for rebirthing. 

I went to therapy for two years. It was really helpful. But I never had breakthroughs because I always understood things intellectually. The problem I had was actually feeling the feelings connected to memories and patterns. And then, the trickier part, just letting them go. Using affirmations, and breathing techniques Peace guides you through a talking session of about 1 hour and then you do about 1 hour of breathing. I discovered old childhood wounds I never would have found on my own, as well as deeply-rooted negative beliefs that underlie and color all of my experiences of which I was completely unaware. What's great about Peace is that she offers solutions and alternatives as well as techniques and practices for you to be able to reprogram yourself and your mind out of non-useful ideas that simply aren't true. For a 2-3 hour session it is $125. She will recommend coming for 10 sessions as is the practice with rebirthers, but that's really up to you. 

FINAL WORD

There's a couple of caveats to this. One is, if you don't have a really open mind, spiritual modalities won't work. Certain things that were told to me didn't make sense until an entire year later. The second thing is, it's really difficult to communicate about these spiritual and emotional matters without using phrases that embarrass us. So just get past the language and listen to what is being told to you. And last lastly, do not get addicted. I remember going to a follow up session with a practitioner and feeling like I didn't get anything out of it. To be honest, I think I kind of stopped asking myself questions and started asking other people. The whole point is to go when you're stuck, realign yourself, and then feel clear enough to use your own information and your own intuition. I think every three months to every year makes sense. If you are highly sensitive like myself you might feel you want to go more than once a year, and it's aok. It's all up to you! If you think this is all nonsense and feel happy and weighted and grounded in your world as it is presented to you in the physical, then thanks for reading this far. 

 

 

My Friend the Medium: Why the Mystic Works for Me

Photography by  Michael O'Shea. 

Photography by  Michael O'Shea. 

I'm not sure how it started, but I have been venturing into spiritual therapy. At least that's what I call it.

I don't always talk about it. I was raised Catholic and have enough friends with an intellectual bent to make me  needlessly fear anything that could turn me into a cliche. But bear with me those of you with New Age in their upbringing, this is all new to me. 

So why all these caveats? Well, 1) I'm scared to tell you about all the healers I've seen and 2) how much healing I feel that I need. I get nervous about knowing what is socially acceptable to share these days. I'm just tired of bullshitting. 

I live life in perpetual shock when I get good feedback. I don't know what this is or from where it stems, but a stem it has, and seeds, and leaves and deep deep roots, and it grows like a weed (primarily in my throat.) 

It's only come to my attention in the last year or so that even though i don't need anxiety meds at this moment, I may have a sneakier, deeper type of anxiety, that radiates out of my bones instead of on the surface, and that it might require a different solution than traditional soft science can offer. 

So, what did I do? What are these spiritually-tinged therapies I speak of?

Well, there were a lot, so we'll just start at the beginning. 

The first was a healing and reading with a medium I very much trust and whose language (largely symbolic and metaphorical) I understand: Hank Hivnor.

I have seen Hank four times. I found him after my friend saw him and had a profound life-changing experience. She explained to me, "It's really trippy and shit, you go there and there might be a big foot in the room who wants to help you and he will tell you what the spirits are saying, or describe the images he sees."

If you're rolling your eyes right now, that's fine. You can visit me back when I blog again about style icons, but for those of you who are as intuitively drawn to the invisible, then please do read on. 

Seeing a medium is the same as any other sort of healing experience: the practitioner's style, bedside manner, experience and knowledge will color your session. The information you receive will resonate with you or cause you to resist, especially when it entails changing your habits and patterns, which again, it seems most healing does. It will start with awareness and offer no divine one-time cure-all, but that's just part of being an organism, I guess. 

With Hank, there is a sort of spatial orchestra that plays out. You have to sit in  particular seat at his place, and you might have to move your things off to the side. Even a coffee cup could distract him from what he's about to tell you. After all, he sees subtle energy bodies. So when he sits you down, it's kind of like when someone clears their desk to work. 

I, of course, had a list of questions. I wanted to make sure I got everything in. I had it sitting in my lap when he asked me to please move it to the side. 

He smiled at me. "You're gonna be one of my new favorite people, " he said. I was wearing my most colorful dress with a Keith Haring style print on it. I had shiny green eyeliner along the insides of my eyes and my long hair all the way down. I was trying to dress myself for a happy psychedelic experience. 

After organizing his sacred ritual tools: candles, sage, a shell, he said a prayer to begin the reading. I didn't have any fear of safety, nor subjects I wanted to broach, but friends of mine said that if you wanted to request he stay away from certain topics, that he could. I told him I wanted to know everything.

"Come on, where is everyone?" he said. Apparently, at my first session, not too many deities showed up for me right away.

"First, I am just going to read your general energy," he said. He was sitting in front of me, but looking sort of over my shoulder. "There is something really oily around you. It's slick. I think someone very powerful said a prayer to protect you," he said. "They had good intentions but the Universe isn't with you. It was meant to protect you from anything harmful, but may have cut you off from both good and bad things," he said. 

I let the information sink in. This made a lot of sense to me. When I was in college and working at a shoe store as a teenager in New York for the first time, I was an open book. I trusted everyone, would smile at everyone. When I waited tables in my early twenties my eyes would get hot and tear up whenever I thought I displeased someone. I could understand perfectly if my mother had said a few prayers to make me less sensitive; I could also easily see how years of attempting to callous myself for the service industry particularly in New York, could have hardened me in some unintentional ways. And if this meant I was cut off to the spiritual, both the good and the bad, that wasn't such a far leap for me to make. 

After Hank was able properly call to some of the deities he works with, (he has a host of cross-cultural deities who help him in his work), we continued on. 

"There's this prism-like thing," he said. "It's near your heart. Everyone from your ancestor's village has one. It's sort of like this symbol of passivity, because in this community it was important for everyone to make sure they didn't outshine anyone else. Do you want to keep it?" he asked. "It might not be the best fit for a modern day woman running her own business," he said. 

He made sure to ask my ancestors if it was okay to remove this "trinket" of our family. My mother's maiden name is Dela Paz, which translates literally to "Of the Peace." Most of the family is concerned with avoiding conflict, so this really resonated with me. "They're saying it's ok if we remove it from here and hang it in the room that could be a nursery," he said. "That might be more appropriate." 

"I'm seeing like a wall of awards," he said . Does someone around you have a lot of awards?"

"Yes, I do, in my family's basement," I answered. When I was in middle school through high school, I earned awards from perfect attendance to best defensive player in soccer. I was voted most likely to succeed. I was the president of the history club. I was collecting awards like they were savings bonds. 

"Did you ever feel like it wasn't you doing the work?" he asked me. 

At first I said, yes it was me doing the work. But then I thought about it and I really felt the power of my mom at that time. She kind of worshipped intellectual agility when I was a kid. She saw that I had a spark of that academic depth so she encouraged me to "be smart." It's only in my early thirties that I'm starting to take that specific type of intelligence off a pedestal and understand all the forms of intelligence as equal. 

"You don't know how to be happy for yourself," Hank continued. "You normally do things to make other people happy."

As he said this, I felt a tear roll down my cheek. The system of awards and accolades I had navigated so easily in high school had created my entire personality. I knew how to follow a curriculum, how to check off someone else's list, how to make the friends that were the most "sought-after" by others.

This story didn't play out the way I thought it would when I came into young adulthood; I had one tough time after another both in and after college. I stopped writing. I fell out of social group after social group. All the boys I played music with kept at it, while I slowly felt like I was falling forever behind. 

I just didn't know who I was without a social structure or a teacher telling me what my next accomplishment was supposed to be. And just having turned 32 (last year) I was suddenly realizing this was happening. When I walked in the door to my first session at Hank's, I wasn't feeling lost or insecure or bad about anything. I just felt the need to hear some spiritual information. At that time, I was so good at people-pleasing, so good at having a cheerful attitude at work and making people laugh and making sure I was being a good roommate, waiter, friend, girlfriend, that I just subdued myself into true passivity. I did everything I did really well. I just never asked myself why I was doing it or what I wanted. It was in my session that I started asking myself these questions, which I am still in the process of doing as I write this. 

That was just some of the truly transformational information that came through in my session with Hank. I just felt an intuitive trust of him and his methods, so it hit me in a way that I am sure it may not have from a friend, from a therapist or even from myself. 

"Is there anyone you want to talk to?" he asked me. "Any spirits you want to contact?"

"Yes, my grandmother," I said. 

After I gave him the spelling of her full name, he said. "I see her like in a glass container. Surrounded by angels... "The angels are trying to contain her, and keep her at a distance," he said. "She wants to come in here and rearrange the furniture," he said. 

If you knew my grandmother, you would know how much she liked to be the center of attention, how she never held her tongue about anything. When the first of our cousins had a baby, my grandmother didn't like the name, and addressed a card for her with the word "baby." It wouldn't surprise me at all if she wanted to come rearrange the furniture. She had a sense of humor and always knew what she wanted.

"She is showing me that she's stuffing newspaper into someone's shoes so that the person will think the shoes are too small and give them to her. She's saying to tell you that she did whatever she needed to do to get what she wanted."

This piece of advice made sense to me as well. I had my experimentation with manipulation as an adolescent girl. Since the days of getting my little sister to give me $100 of her First Communion money for our art club and the kicking her out immediately were over, I never wanted to show anything that resembled manipulation, or even strategy, ever again. It seemed my grandmother was trying to show me that knowing how to get what you want and being a little sneaky about it didn't necessarily make someone a bad person. 

"She's showing someone running in a bikini and jumping into the ocean. She's saying it's important to have fun," he added. 

Repeatedly, I talk about going on vacations, ask other people about their trips, look at photographs of vacations on social media. I haven't taken one without a family-oriented reason in four years. Maybe five. 

"She says, what is the point of working so hard if you aren't going to enjoy the fruit of your labor?" he said. 

To this day, I am still planning my vacation. (It's been about a year since my first reading.) I'm about to turn 33 and still having trouble pulling the trigger on this vacation thing.

We talked about other things, of course. Other people in my life, other energies. Hank had suggestions from Big and Tall, one of the deities he works with, that I paint something in the store red, that the energy of the red would be good for business. That I stop insisting on trying to make everything perfect, that instead, that I understand that it's my creative process that draws people in. That I stop feeling responsibility for other people's happiness and perhaps consider my own instead. There was tons of pertinent information, and other pieces that were brought up and sort of fell to the wayside, (apparently, my long lost ancestors were horse people), but the information that did stick with me opened me up in a way that changed my life. 

So why Hank? Why a medium at all? Why not speak to a therapist?

For me, perhaps, there's less possibility for my ego to interfere when I feel in contact with light beings. When another human being gives me advice, I find myself asking what he or she really knows. This is also how I treat myself: I ask myself how I could possibly know anything about anything given all the information out there. When I am in the presence of someone who can communicate with deities and the divine, my reverence opens me up to suggestions that might otherwise fall on deaf ears.

There is so much more, and I will write about it in the future. But like all manner of teachers, counselors and other sources of knowledge, what I have learned will only impact me if I apply what I've learned to make changes in my life. And this is an ongoing process. For me, the greatest discovery was my sadness and my fair, and my cruelty to myself.  I had no idea it was there. It was buried deeply in the form of self-hating self-defeating ideas. I just didn't notice them because I was too busy making sure people liked me.

And knowing that these elements of myself were there allowed me to begin to take them into the light to examine and dismantle them and understand that I deserve good things, that I am capable of accomplishing goals, and that there is no such thing as perfection beyond the idea that you already are perfect in this moment, exactly as you are. 

 

 

 

 

Ali Magraw, '70s Style Inspo

Ali Macgraw in woven choker and floral.

Ali Macgraw in woven choker and floral.

You fall in love with her; she’s always been more alive than most others, so artistic and enchanted, with that refined, intellectual, bohemian glamour and a little bit of the Bedouin.
— Candice Bergen on Ali MacGraw, quoted by Sheila Weller, Vanity Fair, March 2010.

When I was an adolescent girl growing up in the early '90s, I would read 17 magazine from cover to cover. I idolized the characters on the pages. I dog-eared images when I found hairstyles I wanted to try. I did the same with television characters, though at the time, you could never find a young female role model who was smart and beautiful, unless she was "eccentric." (On Just the Ten of Us, my favorite show, everyone who was pretty was stupid, and all the girls who were interesting were portrayed as unattractive or insane. )

While I am glad I didn't grow up with the internet being so integrated into daily life and social media prodding me to compare myself to other young women, I do wonder how life would have differed if I had access to the internet in my 'tweens. Maybe I would have sought out strong interesting women to be inspired by, instead of hoping they landed on my television or my mailbox. (Although there were a few exciting style heroes of mine: Clarissa of Clarissa Explains It All, Samantha from Who's The Boss, Aaliyah, every cast member of My So-Called Life, and all the members of TLC.) 

As an adult, I still find myself fascinated by certain powerful icons that are 'before-my-time.' I feel now, just as I did then, discovering these mysterious creative beauties for the first time. Currently, I'm endlessly looking at photographs of Ali MacGraw. Ali MacGraw, besides being a talented actress, crazy beautiful, the face of Johnson's Baby Oil and Chanel in the '70s, was also the perfect style icon. Why? Because she was as multidimensional in the way she expressed herself in clothing as she was in her personality. Sometimes draped in feminine floral patterns, ornate chokers, and gogo boots, other times on the perfect minimalist preppy uniform, a t-shirt, classic coating, and barely-there makeup. If you are intrigued by Ali as much as I am, you have to read this Vanity Fair article by Sheila Weller from 2010. From true-blue collar Boston beginnings, Ali was raised by poor artists, lived with roommates like Gloria Steinem, worked as Diana Vreeland's lackey, and fought like crazy to find someone to buy the script for Love Story, so she could act in it (as a mostly-untrained, barely-experienced actor. (You should really read this beautiful article!) 

 Here are some images to get you inspired for the upcoming Spring along with some our inspired new arrivals. 

  • PRINT: Dare to Don the Print : A good print will go a long way if you delicately balance with the right accessories.

Who wouldn't want to wear a print dress with statement boots. I mean come on!

Who wouldn't want to wear a print dress with statement boots. I mean come on!

An easy way to wear a 70s trend: paisley print shift dress, $45.

An easy way to wear a 70s trend: paisley print shift dress, $45.

Mix patterns why don't you! And rock a collar underneath everything. It really changes up your look! Ali was always carrying the right little bag. 

Mix patterns why don't you! And rock a collar underneath everything. It really changes up your look! Ali was always carrying the right little bag. 

Tassels, wicker and vegan leather make our Wicker Park bag the perfect accent, $75.

Tassels, wicker and vegan leather make our Wicker Park bag the perfect accent, $75.

Kimono looks will still be around this season as will the white shoes that were everywhere last season!!! Get brave and don the white in the city!

Kimono looks will still be around this season as will the white shoes that were everywhere last season!!! Get brave and don the white in the city!

Our gothic floral kimono, $45. 

Our gothic floral kimono, $45. 

I go through phases with my head scarf wear, but boy oh boy does she make me want to wear one!

I go through phases with my head scarf wear, but boy oh boy does she make me want to wear one!

MINIMIZE: Your favorite tee. One accessory. Perfectly relaxed hair and makeup. A little can say a lot.

Simplicity can be the most beautiful thing! Stay comfy in your favorite tee and loose hair with natural makeup. 

Simplicity can be the most beautiful thing! Stay comfy in your favorite tee and loose hair with natural makeup. 

Fifth Label Shirt Dress. Perfect layer for all seasons! 

Fifth Label Shirt Dress. Perfect layer for all seasons! 

The ultimate summer uniform: high-neck cropped tank and loose cropped slacks. 

The ultimate summer uniform: high-neck cropped tank and loose cropped slacks. 

Simple ribbed tee, coming Feb $32

Simple ribbed tee, coming Feb $32

Tons of backless and low-back summer styles are due this summer. Accent a simple black dress with one oversized piece of jewelry! 

Tons of backless and low-back summer styles are due this summer. Accent a simple black dress with one oversized piece of jewelry! 

Free bird cuff. Silver-plated. Made in the USA $66

Free bird cuff. Silver-plated. Made in the USA $66

Subtle details like a perfectly-tied fringe scarf and textured tights make for a sophisticated but still interesting look!

Subtle details like a perfectly-tied fringe scarf and textured tights make for a sophisticated but still interesting look!

Scarf Hood available in other colors, $28.

Scarf Hood available in other colors, $28.

Accessorize with no fear: Get your inherited vintage kravat, that embroidered Indian choker, or your most 

One special vintage piece can turn your outfit into something amazing.

One special vintage piece can turn your outfit into something amazing.

Highway Necklace $88, Silver-plated and turquoise. Made in the USA.

Highway Necklace $88, Silver-plated and turquoise. Made in the USA.

Denim Lapis Gold-plated "Indian Summer Necklace" $78, Made in the USA

Denim Lapis Gold-plated "Indian Summer Necklace" $78, Made in the USA

Knit headband, available in more colors. 

Knit headband, available in more colors. 

Matching sets seem like something from the 2010's in the UK but they have been a thing forever! Also check out this amazing way stripes somehow go with pleats and a head scarf!

Matching sets seem like something from the 2010's in the UK but they have been a thing forever! Also check out this amazing way stripes somehow go with pleats and a head scarf!

Color: Wear Bold Primary Pops!

Classic pieces in bright primary colors are perfect to get you in a summer mood. 

Classic pieces in bright primary colors are perfect to get you in a summer mood. 

Match a pop-color piece with an accessory like a hair tie for a retro-flavored happy outfit!

Match a pop-color piece with an accessory like a hair tie for a retro-flavored happy outfit!

Monochromatic pastels make for an amazing cheerful statement piece. 

Monochromatic pastels make for an amazing cheerful statement piece.